It’s hard to believe that 2022 is almost over! I have been thinking a lot lately how fast this year went by, and how crazy it is that it’s almost a new year!
I’ve never really been a fan of New Year’s. I hate staying up late, and I often feel sad, because I think of all the things I wanted to do that year and didn’t.
But, what I’ve learned lately is that life just keeps going, and most of life is the mundane, the boring, the day to day things, but when you look back that is sometimes the most memorable.
Here is a recap of my 2022!
January started with my two best friends! I miss them so much!
Then we celebrated Jackson’s birthday! I don’t actually know if this is his birthday since I adopted him, but let’s be real, he doesn’t know either!
February I had the best time skiing at Sun Valley. I had a day off in the middle of the week and decided to ski by myself! I felt so free!
In March, my favorite Bruce’s came to visit and we also went skiing at Sun Valley!! I love my two favorite Bruce’s!
I also turned 25 in March! We took this picture on my birthday!
In April, my mom came to visit and we had a great time shopping and doing all the things we love to do together! I love my Mom so much!
In May, I spent a lot of time outside with Jackson!! We went on lots of walks, read lots of books, and enjoyed the beautiful weather before it got too hot!
In June, I found out I was going to be competing at International Junior Miss as Miss Idaho! This was a goal I set for myself back in 2019! Just goes to show that sometimes your goals take a while to accomplish, but that doesn’t mean you should give up on it!
July was super fun! I started my new role at KMVT as the morning show co-anchor!
My grandfather also passed away in July, I miss you Papa!
In August, Trevor and I went to DisneyLand and California Adventure! I am sharing this picture because I was so proud of myself for not letting my fears stop me and I went on the Incredicoaster!
In September we celebrated Trevor’s birthday with these great friends!! I’m lucky to have so many great friends!
October was exciting! We bought a house! I love this house and it’s finally starting to feel like home!
November was so busy! I flew back to MA for one weekend to surprise my mom for her birthday!! We pulled off the surprise!!
Then, it was time for Internationals in Florida! What an amazing week with new friends and my family!
December was full of Christmas cheer!!
Now, these are just some highlights of the year. Most of my days were just full of work, taking care of my dog, cooking, cleaning, food shopping, and just doing daily things.
There were also a lot of sad days, and a lot of happy days. And right now as I’m ending this year, I am very sick.
But, I choose to look on the positive side and hope that 2023 will be a year full of accomplishing goals, growing, and happiness.
Hi friends!! Now that I have been home for a while, am fully unpacked and back to the real world, I can settle in and write about my week competing at International Junior Miss in Orlando, Florida!
Now, for those of you who don’t know, I have competed in pageants for a while, back in MA I competed for years before being the National American Miss Massachusetts in 2017.
When I moved to Idaho, I had set a goal back in 2019 to compete again. While it took me a few years to achieve that goal, I did and it was well worth the wait!
On November 19th I set off for Orlando, Florida with 4 suitcases, one crown box and one gown bag (it had 3 gowns in it.) I arrived Saturday night, unpacked and was excited for the week ahead!
Sunday morning was check-in! I was so excited to get the week started!
Little did we know when we took this picture, that Faith would go on to win the International Junior Miss title! A very well deserved win!
Later that night (Sunday) we had kick-off and the Neon Party! The best part about competing in pageants is always meeting all of the other girls!
On Monday, I was able to have a relaxing morning, followed by the Red Carpet Correspondent Competition and then a rehearsal later that evening! Each rehearsal and event has a different theme which is always so fun to plan the outfits out!
On Tuesday we started the day with the gift exchange, each queen brought 3 gifts, one for the outgoing International queen, one for the incoming International queen, and one for another state queen. Carrington got my gift!
Later that day, I competed in the spokesmodel competition, where I spoke about defining your own success, and how WHO you are and HOW you make other people feel is what matters most.
Tuesday was my brother’s birthday, so we had a nice dinner together that night. I was so lucky that my Mom, Dad and brother all were here this week too! We had so much fun together!
Then that night we had THE fashion event of the year!! The Ashley Rene’s and Ashley Lauren’s Under the Sea Ball!! It was so much fun seeing all the amazing outfits, and spending time with these amazing women!
Wednesday was our free day! My family and I went to Epcot! Epcot is one of my favorite parks, I just love all the countries and the different food, as well as the atmosphere!
Thursday, which was Thanksgiving was a super busy day!! I was up at 5:30 a.m. for hair and makeup! For all of the required competitions I got my hair and makeup done by Makeup and Maskara and her crew! It was the best decision I made, because not only did they do an amazing job, but they make you feel so good about yourself!! It was one big hype session in there!
Thursday morning we had interview, the first required competition of the week!
The interview was so fun, all of the judges were so nice! We had 3 minutes with each judge, there was a total of 6 judges. My favorite question was Do you have any regrets with your pageant journey? My answer, I only wish I started competing sooner.
I then had an amazing photo shoot with Imagine Studios! Check out some of these shots!
I just love these photos, it was a great addition to the pageant week!!
Later that afternoon, we had the car drawing! One lucky girl won a brand new mustang convertible. I unfortunately was not that girl.
Then we had the Thanksgiving banquet! I so admired the planning and thoughtfulness in hosting this event for more than 1,000 people! Truly amazing!
I love my family SO MUCH! They are the best part of my life!
Friday, we had our final two required competitions, formal wear and fun fashion!! Here are a few of my favorite stage shots, which I’m obsessed with!
I know it may be silly, but I was very proud of myself after this! I worked with Kailyn, my coach, for months preparing for this pageant, and I told myself I wanted to just do the best that I could do. I didn’t want to compare myself to the other girls, I didn’t want to be sad or disappointed in myself when the week was over. I just wanted to do the best for me. I can confidently say I did that, and had a ton of fun!
Saturday was the final day of the pageant! We started with the pajama rehearsal in the morning, and I was so sad that the week was almost over!
The final pageant was that afternoon!
I wish I could explain in words what it felt like with these girls. I mean this when I say that every single one of these girls is going to change the world.
I was honored to be a part of this group of girls, each one so smart, so talented, so kind, so nice, so supportive, and just so amazing. The support we all showed and continue to show for each other is what this world needs.
When we were on stage and they were announcing the top 12, of course I was a little disappointed that my name wasn’t called, who wouldn’t be. But, at the same time, I was so happy for the girls whose names did get called. I was thrilled for them!
Because pageants aren’t like other competitions, every single one of those girls could have won that crown, and I mean that. And just because your name wasn’t called doesn’t make you any less worthy than the others. We all worked so hard, we all put ourselves out there, and we all did something that most are afraid to do.
And at the end of the day, there is only one girl who walks away with that International Title, and I am so happy for her! But, what I took away from this week was friendships, memories, life lessons, confidence, and fun!
I think that unless you push yourself, and do things that are hard, and surround yourself with people who are better than you, you will never grow, and that is my ultimate goal in life, to never stop growing, and learning, and pushing myself to be the best me I can be, all while supporting everyone else!
Everyone has their time to shine, and I will be supporting the girl whose time it is, knowing that when it’s mine, she will do the same!
I am thankful, grateful and truly so so lucky that I got to experience this week. I will remember it for the rest of my life!
I was honored to win Best Personality at the final pageant!
Thank you to International Junior Miss, National American Miss, and the IAM Pageant Powerhouse for this amazing week, and for helping me become who I am.
1 year ago today, my grandmother passed away. It was sad and kind of sudden, but she was 87 years old. She had a great life, she really did. Gail Lillian Somes Hadley was magnificent.
I think about her often. She was just such a great grandmother. My brother and I are her only grandchildren, and she loved us both so much. Whenever we went over to her house she had some home made dessert waiting for us, or a snack. She made the best peach cobbler or cookies. She loved to cook and bake and made sure no one was ever hungry when they were with her.
She also never missed a recital, baseball game, theatre performance, or any other activity we were a part of.
One year on Thanksgiving when I was little I remember getting upset about something and crying, and she came over and sat with me to comfort me and make me feel better. It’s funny how I have no recollection about what I was upset about, but I will never forget her comforting nature that day.
If we were sick, she came and sat with us so my parents could go to work. We would watch tv and she would sit in the living room with us all day, probably knitting whatever sweater she was working on at that time.
She loved our yellow lab George so much. George knew it too, always sitting by her because he knew she would slip him something under the table. Dogs are so smart.
I always knew I could talk to her about anything, I called her a lot when I moved out here to Idaho, she was just the best.
Recently when I moved away from MA, we were pen pals, writing each other letters, and of course she would include a little gift in mine, some cookies or a gift card.
My dad would go over to her house and show her my news stories that I did, or if I was anchoring he would pull that up and show her too.
I sometimes wish I could call her up now and just talk to her. Tell her about my life, although I’m sure she knows.
We would talk about my dream wedding some day, what colors I wanted and where I wanted to get married. She said she would do my hair in pretty curls like she did for my prom.
I learned a lot from her, about generosity and love and loyalty, but I learned the most important lesson from her after she was gone.
Let me tell you about it. When she passed away, my family planned a wake and a funeral for her. The wake was on Tuesday night and the funeral was on Wednesday.
Tuesday night, we were all there at the wake and when I tell you that EVERYONE she knew came, I mean EVERYONE she knew came. And they were all sharing memories and stories and jokes and it was beautiful. I mean, all these cousins, and nieces and nephews, and friends, and my parents friends, and her friends, and her sister and brother in law, and my friends, and her family, and neighbors, and her daughter’s friends and of course her husband. I could go on. And, I thought how amazing it was that all these people took time out of their life to come say goodbye to her.
It was sad, but it was also kind of amazing, because they were remembering her as this person who cared so deeply about people, and never forgot important milestones.
People were recalling Thanksgivings from years ago, and fun trips to Cape Cod, and Christmas parties, and hand made sweaters that she knit for them or their child, people were remembering her, who she was and what kind of an impact she had on their life.
I always worry that I won’t be successful, that I’m not good enough or smart enough or pretty enough, and it’s kind of sad that I had this realization at my grandmother’s funeral, but NONE of that matters.
Because Grammy was a successful nurse but I don’t think that was brought up once at the funeral. Instead what was brought up was who she was, deep into her soul. She was amazing and kind and generous and loving and caring. And THAT is what matters.
It’s sad that we wait until people are gone to tell them our favorite things about them. I hope she knows how much of an impact she had on my life, and always will.
I think she’s up in heaven playing Bridge with her friends and her sister, eating some trout (her favorite food) and laughing without being in any pain. And I know she’s hanging out with George as well. Probably going on walks with him every day.
I know I’ll see you again someday, until then, I love you, every day.
I had the absolute best weekend ever seeing Derek Hough in his Las Vegas residency, so I thought I would write about it.
So on November 6th, my Mom flew to Vegas from Boston, and I flew to Vegas from Boise and we met up to celebrate her birthday and see Derek!
We walked around and explored the city. I have been to Vegas 2 times but never with my Mom so it was super fun! We are such good travel partners, and my mom is really my best friend!
I love Vegas, it is such a cool place! I love the theme hotels, and all the people watching!
Then it was time to see Derek! His show was at The Venetian and I really enjoyed how the theatre was small, it made it seem like we were part of the show!
Which, actually, I did become part of the show!! Derek was asking for volunteers and he picked me!
I have been to every single one of Derek’s shows, and he has never picked me, so I was SO EXCITED!
He lined us all up, I was the tallest so I was in the back. He told me to stand really still and not move because he was going to come up and push off my shoulders to jump over us!
It was AMAZING!! I was so happy!!
The whole show was spectacular, an hour and a half of pure joy! The thing I admire the most about Derek is his passion, and who he is, he cares for people, and he cares about people, and he really truly is doing exactly what he was put on this earth to do, and there is something so special about that!
In this picture Derek was telling us how for so long he always wondered if he was enough, and it took him a long time to realize that no matter how many accomplishments he had, or how many awards he won, he was always enough, and so are we.
To be honest with you all, I never feel like I’m enough, I always wonder if I am going to be successful, but none of that matters. What matters is how we treat other people, and who we are on the inside. Thank you Derek for reminding me of that.
The finale dance was to a medley from The Greatest Showman, one of my favorite movies! Such a perfect way to end the show!
As soon as it was over, I wanted to see it again!
The next day was our last day, we spent it relaxing by the pool!
I am so thankful I got to see my Mom, and also Derek, I am so thankful for this experience!
I hope I have the chance to see the magic on stage again someday!
Hello friends! If you know me at all, then you must know that Derek Hough is my absolute favorite dancer, choreographer, human, of all time.
Well, I am so excited to be going to Las Vegas to see him on November 7th at the Venetian! My mom is going to come from Massachusetts and I am coming from Idaho and we will have the absolute best time! The show we are going to is on my mom’s birthday.
But, let’s take a little look at how many times I have seen and met Derek Hough, just because these pictures make me happy!
June 22nd, 2014, my mom and I travelled to Mohegan Sun in Connecticut to see Derek in his first Move Live on Tour show!
August 8th, 2014- I met Derek Hough at his book signing at Mohegan Sun in Connecticut. This was one of the best days ever! I felt like I just met my hero!
He signed my book! Also, if you haven’t read Derek’s book, you totally should!
Then, Derek announced that he was going to star in The Radio City Rockettes Spring Spectacular, and of course I went to New York City to see him in the show! We were in the second row, and I left before the show was over so I could go meet Derek at the stage door!
April 3rd, 2015, one of the best days, here we are at the stage door!
He even signed my phone case!
Then, he announced him and his sister were going on another Move Live on Tour, and they were coming to Boston this time! I got tickets again, and went to see him! I waited at the stage door after the show was over, but he didn’t come out this time. The show was still amazing!
I didn’t see Derek again until May 4th, 2017, but this story is wild!
Okay, picture this, I am sitting in the Suffolk University library studying for my media law final. It is a picture perfect day in Boston, the sun is shining and people are happy. I have front row VIP tickets to see Derek Hough on his Move Beyond show for the next day.
I take a break from my flashcards to look at Instagram, and Derek Hough has posted on his Instagram story that he is in the Public Garden, which is about a 10 minute walk from where I am.
I immediately stop studying for my final and call up my best friends Andrea and Andrew as we wander through the city trying to find him.
From the public garden to Fanueil Hall to the Esplanade, we were trying so hard to find him. I just wanted to meet him again, because Derek has been such an inspiration to me.
We decided to sit down on the Greenway because he hadn’t posted in 45 minutes, and I was about to give up, but then he posted that he was inside the Aquarium. We get up and start walking towards the Aquarium. I decided I was just going to wait outside the door and try to see him when he walks out. Just as I made those plans, there he is walking towards me.
I kind of feel bad because it was so obvious he was trying to just have a relaxing day to himself, but I knew I had to say Hi. I called his name and he came over. I told him the story and told him that I was coming to his show the next day. We took these pictures.
The next day I took my media law final, I got a 97 on it by the way, and then we went to the show! I went with my mom and dad and we had VIP tickets, so we got to meet him and his sister before the show, and attend a Q&A session. I wanted to do a really funny picture with Derek, so when I got up there, I said Derek how about you pretend that you are proposing to me? I didn’t know if he would go for it or not, but here is the result.
It was hilarious! I loved this day!
His show was awesome, and in the middle of it, Derek came through the audience, grabbed my phone and we took this selfie!
When Julianne asked for an audience volunteer, guess who went up there! My Dad!
It was one of the best days!
It was a prefect day!
In 2019, Derek announced he was going to go on a solo tour this time, and considering I was about to graduate college, I wanted to reward myself and buy Front Row Seats again to his show in Boston!
The best part about having VIP tickets is that you get to know him a little bit. I asked Derek a question during this Q&A session, I said, Derek I’m about to graduate from college, what is something you wish you knew when you were my age?
I honestly live by what he said every single day.
Derek said, You are who you surround yourself with. If you surround yourself with negative people, you’ll be negative. But, if you surround yourself with people who work hard, and think positive, then you will be that way too.
I admire Derek not only because he is so handsome, but because he has worked hard, and never given up on what he wanted, even though it is challenging.
I hope someday people will look up to me like I look up to him.
I had tickets to see Derek in June of 2020 at the Flamingo in Las Vegas, but that show got cancelled because of COVID, so I really can not wait to see him at the Venetian in November!
I am so thankful for all of these experiences and shows I’ve seen Derek in, his passion and determination is unmatched!
Growing up, I had lots of goals, lots of dreams and ambitions.
For a little while, I wanted to be an actor on Broadway.
Then I wanted to be a princess. Don’t ask me why, I just wanted to marry a prince so I could be a princess and have all the fancy jewels.
Then my goal was to go to college so I could graduate and be a news reporter and eventually work my way up to being the host of Good Morning America.
So, I went to Suffolk University and I had 5 internships and 3 jobs and commuted from home to school every day. I mastored taking the train, and learned all the ins and outs of Boston.
And I loved it. I mean, honestly I LOVED it.
I took classes that were hard but would prepare me for my job, some of which I still think about today.
On May 17, 2019 I got a job as a reporter. On May 19, 2019 I graduated college.
On June 10, 2019 I began my drive to Idaho for my first job as a reporter at KMVT News in Twin Falls, Idaho.
I was excited, scared, nervous, and really happy.
I was moving from Easton, Massachusetts to Twin Falls, Idaho to start my career.
A 2,546 mile drive to prepare myself for what was about to happen.
And here is what I now know:
I greatly underestimated how hard it would be to move literally across the entire country by myself at the age of 22.
The greatest way to learn is by doing the job. College was awesome and great, but my goodness, I’ve learned more in the past year and a half than I did in 4 years of school.
Nothing will prepare you to cover a fatal car accident, or horrific house fire. Nothing.
You will go home at night and not be able to forget about your job.
You really don’t get a day off.
Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, your day will not go how you planned it.
But, there is one thing I have learned over everything else that I will carry with me for the rest of time:
Life has its own plans for you.
I mean, growing up I had all these dreams and goals and things I wanted to do, and moving to Twin Falls, Idaho wasn’t one of them, wasn’t even a thought that popped into my head.
But it has without a doubt been the best decision I’ve ever made.
There are people I didn’t know 2 years ago who now, I couldn’t picture my life without.
The people in this community are some of the nicest, most genuine, most caring people I know.
I mean, I really just love being a part of this community, with all my heart.
Now, I’m not saying you should just drop your goals and dreams and hope for the best, but I am saying that some of the best things to happen in your life and too good to imagine, they are too good to dream up.
I guess what I’m saying is, be open to all the possibilities that come your way, because sometimes the most unexpected ones are the best ones.
I still have so much to learn, so far to go, so many more mistakes to make, so many more stories to tell.
And I am so excited to see all the things that happen to me that were too great to dream up.
Now, hopefully you already know about my obsession for Derek Hough, because if you don’t that would make this blog post less dramatic.
So, let’s assume you do. You know all about how I became obsessed with Derek Hough in 11th grade, and ow I have been to every one of his tours including his show at the Radio City Music Hall, and I have even met him 6 times.
On April 23rd, my love for him and his talents was expressed again, as I attended Derek Hough Live!! The Tour! Now, let me tell you, this was my 7th time seeing Derek, and truly each time they get better.
Derek Hough is magic. His show was funny, his show was beautiful, his show was moving, his show was magical. I wasn’t Elizabeth Hadley the stressed out senior in college with zero free time. I was just Elizabeth, happy and free.
The way that Derek can transition from tap to contemporary to salsa to hip hop to the tango in minutes is amazing. He is one of the most talented people to walk this earth, who is actually really genuine and humble.
The thing that gets me about Derek the most is that he never takes his success for granted. He even said so himself. He said, every night I come up on stage and I always feel like I have to earn it. I have to earn that I get to do this every single night, and I love doing it. Derek was born to be on stage, and how lucky is he that he gets to do what he was put on this earth to do.
I got to meet Derek before hand, and this was my sixth time meeting him. He is just such a beautiful soul.
I asked him what he wishes he knew when he was 22 like I am.
He said, well, I wish I knew that you don’t have to have your life figured out when you are 22. I also wish that I knew that you are who you surround yourself with. If you surround yourself with people who are hard working and nice, you will want to be like them. I love that he said that, and it was such a nice thing to say to me.
The best part of Derek’s show was the backup dancers. WOW! They are talented! They seemed so grateful and happy that they got to be up on that stage and performing alongside such a talented dancer like Derek. But, they are just as talented!
The message of Derek’s show was simple. You. Are. Enough. Just. As. You. Are.
So, in case you needed to hear that today, there you go. You are enough, and you always have been and always will be enough. Just as you are. Never doubt that you aren’t.
It’s hard to believe that 2018 is almost over, it seems like just yesterday it was the end of 2017, and now here we are, the end of 2018. I don’t like endings or beginnings, maybe that’s why I hate the end of the year. I actually love the middle of things, I love a good Wednesday. I really don’t like to see things end, or start. But, nevertheless, here we are, so I figured I’d give a little recap of my year, mostly for me, I won’t have any hard feelings if you never read this.
In January, I traveled to Mont Tremblant, Canada with my brother and Dad to go skiing. I love skiing on new mountains and this was a great way to kick off the new year!
Also in January, I started my internship at Channel 7 WHDH, as an assignment desk intern.
In March, I went to Gulfport Mississippi to volunteer with Habitat for Humanity with my school’s Alternative Spring Break program! (BEST WEEK EVER) I have so many other blog post’s about this week, it was just that good!
I turned 21 in March, and celebrated with my best friends!
In May, I finished junior year of college and resumed my summer position of working at Target! Hello 6 a.m. shifts!
I went to Philadelphia right before July 4th, which was super fun!
I hiked Mount Washington!
The end of July was sad, when I crowned my successor, and am now forever a has been! Thank you National American Miss!
I went to Martha’s Vineyard in August, and while I was there, I got the call that I would be interning at Channel 4 WBZ for fall semester!
I started senior year of college!!
I had the best long weekend in Wilmington, North Carolina at the One Tree Hill Convention in October!
I finished fall semester of college, and…
GOT A JOB!!
That’s right! I will be a script writer at Channel 7 WHDH starting on January 14th! I am excited that my 3 internships and lots of hard work helped me get this position! I know I will learn so much from this job!
Get ready world, I am coming for you this year, I’m graduating, I’m coming into the real world, and be warned, I’m going to make a splash!
I never make new year’s resolutions because no one ever sticks to them. But this year, I have one.
Here’s to happiness and love in 2019, for each and every person in the entire world!
And just like that, my fall semester of senior year is over! I honestly am still in shock that this May, I’ll be graduating. Unless of course, this upcoming semester is too hard for me, and I can’t do it. (I’m being sarcastic). Don’t worry, I’m graduating in May, come hell or high waters.
This semester was so great, I really feel like I grew a lot, and matured. It was hard, some day’s I hated it, but over all, I think it was more good than bad, most days anyways.
Let’s recap my semester for those who haven’t been following along as closely to the intricacies of my life, and really I don’t blame you if you haven’t.
I took 4 classes for 4 credits each.
I interned at WBZ-TV (Channel 4 for you local folks) 16 hours a week.
I commuted back and forth to school an hour and a half each way.
I traveled to Wilmington, North Carolina for the One Tree Hill convention.
I taught dance every Saturday morning to 3-6 year olds.
I sort of maintained a social life. I must admit, this is probably the area I lack the most. People invite me to do things, but I’m usually working, too tired, or it’s way too late, and how am I supposed to get home? I want to work on this more for the spring semester. I have this overhwelming feeling that I’m going to graduate and wish I spent more time having fun.
I applied for a job at Channel 7 and an internship at Channel 5. I got both, but ended up taking the job.
I celebrated my Mom, Dad, Bruce’s Andrea’s, Andrew’s Birthday, Thanksgiving, and almost Christmas.
I started The Mindy Project and am sufficiently obsessed with the show and am convinced that if Mindy Kaling and I ever met we would be best friends.
I was trained as an Alternative Spring Break Leader as preparation for my upcoming ASB trip to Battle Creek, Michigan.
I also applied for another internship with NECN, still waiting to hear back on that one, and I finished my semester after taking 4 finals and almost pulling my hair out.
Today I rewarded myself with a nice relaxing facial at the spa. Do I need to reward myself for doing something that most of the world does, working?
No I don’t, but I will tell you, this semester was difficult, classes were hard, I had to judge so many things on top of each other. I rarely eat a normal meal, it was usually while I was studying or editing a project. But, as I sit in my living room now, I realize that I had a great time with most of it, and I grew into a new, more confident, still kind of unsure, a little scared person, and I can’t wait for next semester already, because I already miss my friends. And I’m excited to start my new job!
I hope you all have a great holiday season, and a great end to 2018! I’ll tell you, I’m already excited about 2019.
Sometimes I joke around and say that if you don’t know where I am, it’s either in the editing lab working on my current package, or on the commuter rail. It’s sad, but also, not false.
Commuting is a full time job. I love when people take the commuter rail and they clearly don’t do it much, because they are all happy and talkative and they don’t know to have their ticket ready to go before they get on the train. I feel like telling them that the appeal wears off.
Sometimes parents take their children to the train station to watch the trains go by, and it’s adorable to see how happy it makes them, but then I think, if only you knew how much pain it causes all of us.
In order to survive commuting, I have come up with a guide. A top ten, of sorts. If you commute, you will agree, if you don’t you’ll think I’m being ridiculous, but believe me, you are going to want those heavy winter gloves when the train is delayed and you end up having the stand outside for 30 minutes in the 15 degree weather.
Here we go:
10: Get a Really Warm Winter Coat, Jacket, Mittens, Hat.
When the train is late, or the train breaks down, or the heat is broken on the car, or you realize you wanted to go out with your friends after your day, you won’t regret it. Maybe it’s not the latest fashion, or the latest trends, but nobody on the train cares. You will be happy to have that warmth while you wish you didn’t have to wait outside for the train.
9: Invest in Some Really Nice, Comfortable Shoes
It sounds silly, but the thing is, when you commute, you have no down time. From the minute you get in your car to drive to the train, to the minute you get back in your car after the train ride home, you won’t have a minute to relax. Where would you even go to relax? If you are like me, you may have a friend who lives in the North End and lets you go over for an hour in the middle of the day, but still, you can’t rely on him to always be there. Believe me, you are going to want those comfy shoes.
8: Get Really Good At Time Management.
I can tell you the exact amount of time it takes me to get to my house from the train station. (26 minutes) I can tell you the exact amount of time it will take me in Starbucks to get my coffee in the morning, (8 minutes) and the exact amount of time I need to print out my essay that’s due right before class. (if there is no line, 6 minutes.) I know if I take the 8:01 train its 35 minutes, but if I take the 6:56 train it’s 29 minutes. I know it’s 3 minutes from Back Bay to Ruggles, and I know that it takes my 12 minutes to walk from South Station to Sawyer Building.
7: Bring a Book.
Sure, you have your phone, or music. But, day after day of aimlessly scrolling through social media will really wear on you. You will waste your data, your dad will get mad, or you will just feel like you are wasting time. Get a book, read that book. I’m telling you, I’ve read 30 books this year, all thanks to the commuter rail
6: Get Ready To Be Tired.
At least at first. I remember going home, and feeling really tired. Now, I’m used to it, so I’m not tired anymore. My legs hurt, my head was tired, and their are lots of days I still want a little more sleep, but I’m used to it now.
5: Bring Your Lunch
Especially if you are commuting to Boston, I don’t know how expensive the rest of the country is, but Boston is expensive. I just can’t be buying food every day. Bringing lunch really pays off, I can eat it wherever I am, I don’t have to wait in line, which wastes more time. And at the end of the day, when I get hungry, I have a snack. I am already paying for my monthly commuter rail pass and parking, gosh, I don’t know what I’d do if I had to pay 15 dollars for lunch every day. That’s 75 dollars a week!
4: Don’t Expect Miracles.
The commuter rail is run by humans, humans make mistakes. I know I make mistakes, so many mistakes. If the train breaks down, or it’s late, sure it’s annoying, but I can’t get too mad, I’m sure they feel bad enough already, just be patient, wait it out, and eventually I’ll get where I need to go, and usually the train is on time.
3: Really Appreciate When You Get Where You Need To Go
Whenever you get where you are going, be happy, have a little fun, buy a coffee, just be all there, because soon enough, you will have to go back to South Station to wait for the train again, so be happy when you are wherever you needed to be.
2. Be Nice To Everyone You See On The Train, Or On The Sidewalks.
We are all on the same boat. Most likely, nobody really wants to be doing this, but we all are anyways. Let them on the train in front of you, let them sit in the middle seat when they are short on cars that day. Try to smile, tell them if they dropped something. When you are packing for 16 hours, it’s hard to remember it all, help them out, smile, be kind, but don’t be dumb either, be quiet in the morning.
1: No Matter How Bad of A Day it is on the train, it’s still better than driving.
Always remember, sure, most days it’s cold, it’s rainy, it’s windy, but, it’s still better than sitting on the highway in gridlock for hours, wasting gas, wasting time, let alone finding a parking spot in Boston. At least on the train, you can read, you can text, you can listen to your podcast, all while someone else is doing the driving for you. Taking the train, is always better than driving. I tell myself that everyday, and it’s not so bad anymore.